Mr. Army Wife gets a job!

Are you ready to join the Women's Army Corps?

I used to be somewhat of a traditionalist when it came to men and women. I think it had to do with my upbringing. My mom stayed home with my brother and I. She cooked and cleaned and ran us all around town when we needed to go to baseball practice or cub scouts. She was a team mom, and class chaperone, and a scoutmaster. She did all of the things that a Mom in Melbourne, FL did during the 1970s and 80s. At least that I saw moms do. That’s what I grew up with and that’s how my opinions of roles were first formed.

However, I was never told that life had to be lived that way. Mom had goals. She wanted to get her college degree and become a teacher. After she achieved those goals, she set new ones. She wanted to earn a Master’s degree, teach college and use her skills in various ways. All of that happened. She set her eyes on a Doctorate, and now in her (age deleted so I still get Christmas and Birthday presents,) she is still pursuing that goal and setting new ones. However, she is still Mom, supporting her 2 sons, her husband and now her daughters-in-law, and grandchildren. She’s an amazing woman.

It wasn’t until later in life, after Heather and I joined the Army and I became Mr. Army Wife that I learned that my mother had another goal. She had the goal of serving in the military. At 18 years of age, Mom wanted to leave the house and sign up to serve her country. Unfortunately, that goal never came to fruition. You see, in the 1970s, girls between the ages of 18-21 had to receive permission from their parent or guardian to enlist. My grandfather said no and Mom stayed home. While something we may not understand today, in hindsight it turned out much better for her. She married my Dad at 19 and birthed her awesome son just three years later. She gave birth to her other son 2 years after that and her family was complete. Had she joined the Army that might not have happened. Lucky for me Granddaddy knew what he was doing.

Now, why am I telling you a story about my mother, and her desire to be a Soldier? Well, because I have recently taken a consulting gig with the Friends of the US Army Women’s Museum. Basically, I am charged with telling the Army story and the stories of the brave women who have served since the dawn of our Country. To whom do I tell these stories? Anyone who will listen. This generation of Soldiers is a big group. The next generation of Soldiers, that’s important too. We go out to schools or welcome them in to share our history.

In order to educate though, you must first be educated. I thought I knew a lot about women serving in the military. After all, I am Mr. Army Wife. My bride is now a Captain (promotable) in the Army. I knew that women used to serve in clerical positions so more men could go off and fight during WW2. I knew that some women during the revolution or civil war used to disguise themselves like men so they too could serve their country. I knew that as time has progressed, so have the roles for women in the military. But, oh how little did I know.

Margaret Corbin the first female US Soldier

Margaret Corbin the first female US Soldier

Let’s start at the beginning. Did you know that the first woman to receive an Army’s pension was Margaret Corbin? During the Revolutionary War she followed her husband off to battle. She would tend to injuries or cook for the men. When John Corbin was killed, her role changed and she picked up right where he left off firing his cannon. Legend has it that she was a much better shot than her husband and other men fighting would stop and look knowing it couldn’t be John hitting the targets. Congress authorized her pension in 1779, making her the first official US female service member.

Did you know the only female to earn the Medal of Honor did so during the Civil War? Dr. Mary E. Walker was an assistant surgeon serving with the Union Army in Tennessee. She was captured and imprisoned for a

time in Richmond, VA . After her release she returned to the war, this time at a prisoner of war camp in Louisville, KY. It was President Andrew Johnson who awarded Dr. Walker with her Medal of Honor.

It goes on from there. During WW1 most of the women serving with the Army were with the Army Nurses Corp, but other were trained as radio electricians, secretaries, or accountants. Some 230 women were trained to be telephone operators, and quickly received the nickname “Hello Girls.” They served overseas during the war, but sadly were quickly dismissed when the war was

The "Hello Girls" served overseas because of their bilingual skills.

The “Hello Girls” served overseas because of their bilingual skills.

over without official discharges or pensions. These women and others fought to change this and in 1979 they were officially recognized as Soldiers. A majority of them passed away before this happened.

It wasn’t until WW2 that women who joined the ranks of the Army were granted some of the same protections as their male counterparts. It wasn’t equality by any means, and it would take to long to list all of the differences here, but the Women’s Army Corps (WAC) was an official branch of the Army. By the time WW2 ended WACs, as the female soldiers have come to be known, had served in every theater of operation both in Europe and the Pacific. They distinguished themselves and earned various medals and citations. 160 WACs lost their lives in non-combat related ways. Women were now a part of the Army, and they would never look back.

Women continue to make history in the Army. We’ve seen news story after news story about the brave women who are risking their lives on the battlefields of Iraq and Afghanistan. In 2010 Sergeant Sherri Gallagher became the first woman ever named “Best Warrior’s Soldier of the Year.” And just last week, (Feb 2015) 5 female soldiers passed the Ranger Assessment Training Course bringing them closer to being the first females to attend and possibly pass the Ranger Training School. That’s pretty badass!!!

Why am I telling you all this? I’m telling you this because I am an advocate for women in the military. I know a lot of women who serve or have served and for the most part it has been an extreme pleasure getting to know them and serving with them. However, I am also telling you this because for everything I thought I knew, there are dozens of things about women in the military that I didn’t know. I didn’t know about Margaret Corbin and her cannon skills. I didn’t know about Dr. Walker, the prisoner of war, Medal of Honor surgeon, and I didn’t know about the “Hello Girls.” Now I do, and it’s all because of one place…The US Army Women’s Museum.

I don’t want this to sound like an advertisement for the museum because I think everyone in the Fort Lee area should come and visit, (which I do) or because I think everyone else should check out their Facebook page (which you should.) No, I want this to be a story about how I have come to respect the immense about of work women have had to do, and the insane amount of scrutiny they have had to endure to get to where they are in today’s military. It’s crazy to think that we are 100 years past the beginning of American involvement in WW1. During that time we have gone from 35,000 women serving in just a handful of fields, not even as regular members of the Army, to more than 350,000 serving in all branches of the military in more than 400 occupational specialties.

There is one other thing I believe is important to say in this piece. Women can claim one thing about their service to our country that men will never be able to do. Every woman, every single female who has ever served in the US Armed Forces, volunteered to do so. There has never been a draft in place for females. So when Margaret Corbin watched her husband die, and then picked up his weapon and used it against the very men who had just slain her beloved, she did so of her own free will. When your great grandmothers joined the Army Nurses Corps in WW1 or the WAC in WW2, they did so without the government drawing their number out of a hat. Millions of families were affected by the drafting of their husbands, sons and fathers into service. That should never be trivialized. Yet, neither can the fact that hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of women have also served their country and every one of them walked into an office and willingly signed their name on the dotted line. Once again, pretty badass.

I have heard it said that the Woman’s Museum is important because it teaches women’s history in the US Army, but that’s a pretty limited and rather sexist view. The museum is important because these stories are part of the complete picture that is the US Army and US military. It is a part of the legacy that stretches across many generations. I can trace my family military tree back at least 4 of those generations. My Great Grandfather was a cook in the Army. My Grandfather was a B-29 gunner. My Father was an Electronic Repair Specialist on some big missiles. I was a Broadcast Journalist. My wife, well she’s achieved more than the four of us combined. She is a Logistics Officer. She’s served with distinction for almost 14 years. She’s deployed twice, been a Company Commander, and a Battle Captain. She is not just the woman in our family’s military history, she’s the ALL STAR Soldier in our history, and she just happens to be female.

So, I USED to be a bit of a traditionalist when it came to men and women. I used to think I would go to work and then come home to do my chores of mowing the yard and changing the oil in the cars. Now, I cook. I clean. I do the laundry and make the bed. And, I still mow the yard and make sure the oil is changed. I’m proud to do it. After all, my wife is a Soldier in the United States Army. To me, that’s pretty badass.

You can learn more about the US Army Women’s Museum by visiting their Facebook page at this link, https://www.facebook.com/usarmywomensmuseum.

You can learn more about women in the US Army or sister services by using Google. (DUH)

Bringing Sexy Back!!!

I can’t help but think that what I am about to write is going to get me into hot water with some of you spouses.  I can’t help but believe that as much as you say you want to know what your men are thinking, you really don’t want to hear it.  I can’t help but believe that while a lot of you are going to read this and think about what I am writing, some of you are going to be angry with me.  You are going to feel like I am judging you and your relationship personally.  Let me assure you now that I am not.  I don’t know very many of you personally at all, and the ones I do know, know that I have their best interests at heart when I speak about relationships.  With all that being said, let’s get to it.  This article won’t write or read itself.

Ladies, you are letting yourselves go.  I am not judging each of you individually, but rather as a group, because when I walk around my local PX, Commissary or other store, I can see the trend.  Spouses of Soldiers have become a group who no longer cares what they look like or what they do.  A vast majority, have just given up.  Let me give you a few examples.

-If you wear pajama pants to the store, you have given up.

-If your sweatpants have pockets in the back, you have given up.

-If your hair is all ways of crazy, and not on purpose, you have given up.

-If you get back in the car to sit down while your gas tank is filling, you have given up.

-If you go through the drive-thru and then eat your food in the parking lot, you have given up.

Calm down, stop screaming, there might be exceptions to some of these (not for the pajama pants), but from a man’s perspective these are just a few of the examples that show us that you are no longer interested.  What is worse is that it isn’t showing us that you aren’t interested in us. It shows us that you aren’t interested in yourself.  You have given up trying to be the very best person that you can be.  That kind of makes us sad.  Please ladies, do your husbands, your Soldiers, your heroes a favor. It’s time to bring the Sexy back.

I hope you notice that not once did I mention your weight or a number on a scale.  The fact is that women are far more likely to judge themselves based on those things than their men are.  Don’t get me wrong, we look at weight, and I will go into that a little more later, but overall, a woman’s sexiness is not based on the size of her belt line.  My fat ass is certainly not going to judge you for that.  I know the difficulties that come with an extra chin hanging around for the ride.

My hypothesis rather is this, women are no longer interested in themselves because they have either lost or never had the confidence to be beautiful in their own eyes, which makes it a lot less likely for them to be beautiful in the eyes of others.  Confidence equals sexiness, at least in the long term.  It doesn’t matter what you look like, or what your personality.  If you don’t have confidence, you are going to lose the sexiness factor every time.

Let me put it this way.  Two ladies are walking side by side in the PX.  One got out of bed, tied her hair up in some crazy way, put Crocs on and got in her car.  The other took the time to take a shower, do her hair, put on a little make up, a dress and nice pair of shoes. (You all love to define how you look based on the shoes you wear…I don’t get it, but I do like it)  I ask you, which one is more likely to get a few nods, smiles, or winks?  Which is more likely to get their picture on the peopleofwalmart.com website?

It doesn’t matter whether these ladies are overweight or thin as a string bean, the one who respects herself enough to give her the best possible chance at a great day, is the one who is going to be seen as a strong, confident and sexy woman.  The other is going to be ignored.  This translates to the marriage even more, and that is what I am really interested in helping.

I think it is probably a safe bet to say that most of you military wives think your husbands are drop dead sexy in their Army uniforms.  Women love a man in uniform and the military uniform just seems to do something to make men more beautiful than ever in your eyes.  I’m not going to deny the appeal, but I am going to tell you that as much as I love my wife, and as beautiful as I believe she is, I am not particularly attracted to her uniform.  Why do you think that is?

Easy, the uniform does not add confidence to my wife like it does with most men.  Men put on that military uniform and become tougher, stronger, and more capable of taking the world by storm.  While this may happen for a lot of women, it isn’t the case for my wife.  The uniform doesn’t enhance her best personality traits.  Therefore, it doesn’t add to the sexiness.  However, you put her in a dress and a set of heels, and the transformation is much different.  She walks with a different swagger.  The aura around her shines a little brighter.  You can tell that she feels sexier in the dress and heels, and therefore has more confidence.  That confidence is what makes her sexy.

After 14 years of marriage I have learned this one thing.  Being comfortable in your own skin is what makes you sexy.  It isn’t about your weight.  If you feel like your weight is preventing you from being sexy, you have two choices, be happy or lose weight.  Otherwise, you are just going to be mired in self-pity and that isn’t sexy to anyone.  Get up.  Get to work.  Do whatever it is that will make you sexy in your own eyes.  I assure your, your husband will see you as sexy again too.

You want some help huh?  What do I think you should do to make that happen?  Well, here are a few things…

  1. Take a shower daily.  I wish this didn’t have to be said, but it does.  I know the baby is screaming and dinner won’t cook itself and the house is a disaster, and the car is broken, but the shower is about so much more than getting clean.  It’s about giving yourself 10 minutes to breath.  If you have to get up at 5 am when your husband leaves for PT in order to get that shower, do it.  It is the first and most important way that we can feel better about ourselves.
  1. Get dressed!  I can remember when I was in high school and college all the girls had to wear the latest fashions and had to dress up almost every day because they were trying to impress the football stud or the class president.  Then we all get married and it is like we have no reason to impress anyone at all.  But, a pair of jeans and a shirt at least lets people know, including most importantly your husband, that you have your shit together.  How you look, represents how your house looks, how your family looks and how your personality looks.  Believe me those gossipy women at the FRG meeting are not talking about how much they can’t believe that one woman had the gall to wear a skirt and flats.  Nope they are talking about the Pajama pants woman, and they won’t forget her.
  1. Make the bed!   I don’t think I can emphasize this one enough.  There is something about completing a task in the morning that can influence your entire day.  Nothing did more for my marriage in the bedroom than making the bed each morning has done.  There is something about climbing into a made bed that just brings the best out in people.  You will get better nights sleep, you will be able to cuddle better, and you will appreciate the accomplishment more than you know.  It is a two-minute chore with a lifetime of rewards.  Do it.
  1. Solicit his help!  I am going to let you in on this secret.  I have become an expert at picking out clothes for my wife.  She won’t even go shopping without me now.  I don’t think this because she doesn’t have taste.  Rather, I believe it’s because I only want to see her look her absolute best and so if something doesn’t make her look great, I’ll tell her.   You can’t be afraid to let your husband be honest with you about how you look.  If he doesn’t think it makes you look your best, it doesn’t matter how great it looks on the hanger, he is never going to like you in it.  The best way for you to start feeling better about yourself is to trust in the opinions of those who love you most.  Your hubby knows, get him to tell you the truth.
  1. Go for a walk!  This is not about exercising to lose weight, although that certainly can be a by-product.  Taking 30 minutes to do something completely for yourself is going to give you the confidence to know that you matter to yourself.  I think this is a major problem in today’s world.  Women put everyone in front of themselves and therefore their own personal time is taken away.  This takes away their feeling of autonomy, which takes away from their confidence.  You can’t do that.

These five things just barely scratch the surface of things you can do to help build confidence.  Setting goals for things you never thought possible and then working toward those goals is another way.  Opening yourself up to new experiences is another.  In fact there are endless ways to find your confidence.  Each case is different.  Each person is different.  But all of you have the ability to be comfortable in your own skin.  You are uniquely you.  Be the best you that you can be.

Let me end by saying this.  We all want our marriages to be something written about in the greatest love stories.  We want our spouses to look at us each day with the same love that was present on the day we said “I DO.”  But it takes effort.  Marriages are hard work, and as much as we want to train the other person to live in our world, we have to train ourselves to live in theirs as well.  If your husband doesn’t see you as sexy anymore, ask yourself, is it because he has changed or because you have given up.  I know I gave up at one point.  I know I just didn’t care.  It was my fault.  Even as a man, I lost my confidence and my sexiness.  At least the sexiness that she sees.

Confidence only comes by caring about YOU.  Athletes gain confidence because they care enough to put in the hours of practice that it takes to become great.  Soldiers gain confidence because they care enough to focus on their training and on their missions.  You can gain confidence by caring enough about how you present yourself that you will always be just as sexy as you have always been.

From a man’s perspective, sexiness has much more to do with confidence that it does with looks.  If you carry yourself with an attitude and aura that screams, “I love who I am!” we will love you too.  Give yourself that chance.  You deserve it.

Marital Trust Experiment Final Thoughts

Steve:  At the beginning of July, Heather and I wanted to have some fun with all of the clothes in her closet.  Basically, I threw out the challenge that I could pick out her clothes for 30 days without repeating any single piece with the exception being shoes.  This stemmed from Heather’s insistence that she, “had nothing to wear,” and my insistence that she had a heck of a lot more to wear than she thought.  Basically, I was asking Heather to trust me to pick out her clothes for 30 days, and give me the opportunity so show her that there are a lot more outfits than she thought.

What did I learn?  Here are the top 3 things (Spoiler Alert:  Ladies, you already know this stuff I bet)

1.  For Heather, clothes can set the tone of the day!  My clothes are about form and function.  I need 5 shirts and 5 pairs of shorts to get through my week because that is what is practical, but what I found in Heather is that what she wears directly can affect her mood.  If she doesn’t like something or think something makes her look a certain way, she reacts in that way.  That made me very conscience of the things I picked out.  It also made me watch her reactions closely when looking at things so that I could try not to make the same mistakes twice.

2.  The hanger is not the body!  There are clothes out there that look great on a hanger, but don’t look great on a particular person, and vice versa.  I think buying an outfit without trying it on to see how it looks on you is tantamount to placing a bet without looking at your cards.  At that point it is just a crap shoot.  Heather has some clothes that are cute, but just don’t work on her for any given reason.  She also has some clothes that I look at and think, “Holy Horrible Batman!”  But once she puts them on, they work!  Take the time to try in on…it will work better for you in the end.

3.  What you wear really can help your marriage!  Ok, I might get some push back here, but I will stick by this until the day I die.  I know that after 12 years of marriage we are supposed to be comfortable with one another in every way.  Heather and I have seen each other at our bests and worsts to be sure, but being comfortable with one another can quickly turn into a lack of trying and that can’t be good.  What I saw this month was that when Heather was dressed in clothing that wasn’t just shorts and t-shirts, she had more confidence.  She felt better about herself, and she was overall happier.  This made me see her as even more sexy than I saw her before (which is hard).  In turn, I wanted to dress better, and look better for her.  It becomes cyclical.

Overall, I think this experiment was a huge success.  First, I won!  Heather has a lot of clothes left over.  Sure they are mostly t-shirts and winter clothes, but there are still 5 dresses that I like, a black A-line skirt, and a couple pairs of khakis that could be paired with a couple of blouses that are still in the closet.  But, the experiment was a success because Heather totally trusted me.  She had faith that I wouldn’t put her in clothes that would make her look ridiculous.  I didn’t mismatch colors.  The other thing is that she trusted me to choose event or day appropriate clothing.  That takes a lot of trust considering I’m a guy and event appropriate for me are about the same for church, a picnic, or a sporting event.

I thank Heather for going through this with me.  I thank her for accepting the challenge.  And I thank her for not using her vetoes.  It’s been awesome Babe!  I love you!

Heather:

This experiment really was fun! In the last couple years, Steve has really become very good at fashion and picking out clothes and shoes for me so when he proposed this challenge I knew he would do well. I wasn’t sure how well with the clothes currently in my closet, but he did it! And I also learned some things…

It really does make a difference what you’re wearing for the day. As Steve stated above, he could tell a difference in my mood. I felt better on the days I was dressed up, even if I wasn’t doing anything significant. It felt nice to have a dress on just because. And I feel sexier when I wear heels. Steve has bugged me for years to wear heels more often, but I fight it because to me they were uncomfortable and I prefer shoes that are closer to the ground. C’mon, I wear combat boots for a living! But throughout this experiment, I wore them more than I ever have and I think my feet got used to them and I felt more comfortable walking in them. I know Steve will love that!

I know I posted about this in one of the blog entries and that is how we get stuck in a rut and wear the same ‘ol things. We get comfortable and lazy and wear the same clothes like every week instead of trying to be creative and give some of the clothes in our closet more “face time.”  With Steve objectively looking at my closet, he pulled out things that I don’t wear often and even paired some things together that I never considered and I loved it. I wore clothes that I forgot I had or clothes that I forgot actually looked nice and that now I will wear more often.  I’ve even noticed this in this visit with my mom. She has a TON of clothes, so much so that she was filling up every closet in the house! With their recent move, I think she realized the absurdity of it and donated more to Goodwill. Anyway, she still has a lot, yet every time I visit it seems as if she wears the same pieces over and over. So, ladies stop thinking something is “too fancy” for an ordinary day because I’m sure you spent a lot of money on some of those clothes and they deserve to be worn and you deserve to feel beautiful!! Besides, look at the reaction of my husband..when I feel better, he feels better and wants to be better.

Finally, I’ve learned to trust Steve more.  I trust him with so many other things already because I know he will always support me and take care of me.  But, I trust he will not steer me wrong and dress me in something ridiculous or that makes me feel bad. Even though I didn’t use any vetoes, there were days when it probably should’ve been a veto because I didn’t feel comfortable in something or it just didn’t look right and he changed it, but he never forced me to wear anything just because that’s what he picked out for the day. I trust his fashion sense more than mine, especially since I receive so many more compliments on things he’s picked out. It’s so bad that I can’t even shop for myself anymore because I wonder what Steve will think of it. Therefore, he will now dress me for the rest of my life! LOL!

Babe, this experiment was so fun! Thank you for wanting to do it. I know people think we’re crazy and have nothing else better to do than have you dress me like a Barbie, but let’s face it, we don’t…ha ha! Not many husbands would even take on such a challenge and I know I’m blessed to have someone who cares enough to take the time to invest in me. I love you so much and you make this thing called life fun and exciting!

Day 30: The Final Outfit

Steve:  I must say this has been fun.  For the past 30 days I have used a lot of the clothes in Heather’s closet.  I never used a piece twice except for shoes, and I have succeeded in picking out more than 30 different outfits.  The best part?  There were no vetoes.  Heather could have used them, but didn’t because she trusted what I picked.  Awesome.

Day 30 – Denim Jeans Skirt w/ Black and Red Tiger Striped Blouse and Black Sandals

Day 30 Outfit

 This denim skirt is another one of Heather’s go to pieces and I saved it for the end just in case I got backed into a corner.  I didn’t, of course, and was able to use it today.  Heather is out and about with her Mom today so this is perfect for that.  I believe this is another one of those pieces I bought at Dillard’s when Heather was deployed…if so, big shout out to Colleen again.

The blouse was originally going to be used last Friday night when Heather and I were supposed to go to Tampa for a show and a night out.  I was going to pair it with black pants and red heels.  Unfortunately, I was unable to go out of town this weekend, so the blouse didn’t get used then.  It is too cool not to get used in this experiment though, so I used it today.  It ties on the left side of the neck adding decoration.  I like it.

Day 30 ShoesBy now you are probably tired of seeing these shoes, but since Heather was out of town this weekend, it is another great reason to have them.  They go with anything.  That means she doesn’t have to pack 50 pairs of shoes for all of the great outfits.  Plus, she could wear them every day.  They show off her cute toes.

Tomorrow, I will post some thoughts on the experiment, and share the next experiment Heather and I will try in August.  Not sure I can be successful two months in a row, but I will certainly give it a go.  I am pretty sure Heather is game. I think she wants to get even.

Heather:

Wow, a month has gone by so fast! This was a good outfit to end the month too. I got this shirt at that same consignment shop I’ve referred to in earlier posts. Funny, it seems like I got a lot at that shop, but I really didn’t. I guess that is what is mostly in my current wardrobe. This skirt is an easy go with anything type of skirt and so are the shoes. Steve had to pick out all my outfits for 4 days because I’m out of town and he did a great job. All the outfits worked and were fitting for all occasions. It looks as if tomorrow’s post is going to be our thoughts on the experiment so I’ll save my comments. Stay posted for next month’s challenge. A clue is Steve will be challenged again!

Day 29: A Moment of Silence

Steve:  Today is a sad day for Heather and I as we are learning the news that a fellow Soldier and friend, Captain David Haas, has passed away.  David was stationed with Heather in Iraq and Kansas, and led Bravo Company before Heather took charge from him back in 2010.  Our prayers go out to Dave’s family and to all the Soldiers affected by this loss.  This one’s for you Dave!  We will miss you.

As for the Schmitt Marital Trust Experiment, today is pretty simple.

Day 29:  Black Dress with Black Flip Flops

Day 29 Outfit

 This is a simple black dress that I bought for Heather when she was deployed.  I like it because it has the black with the black lace over top, so it is decorative and fun.  I know this is one of the dresses Heather can wear almost everywhere and is easy, so I saved it for today for a reason.  Today, Heather is celebrating her birthday at her parents home, and her entire family (except me) is going to be there.

Day 9 shoes 2The shoes are the same black flip flops Heather has worn at other times during the month and this may very well be the last time they are worn.  I think after a month of having me dress her, she deserves to buy a new pair of flip flops.  At least you can see her cutie patootie toes!

 

Heather:

It’s kind of ironic that today ending up being a day dressed in black as we are mourning our friend, Dave Haas. I still cannot get over the shock of hearing this news. I will miss him. RIP, Dave.

 

This dress is definitely very practical and very simple. It works for a day with family. I miss you, babe.

Day 28: The last Two a Day!

Steve:  Today is another day when I have to pick out two outfits for Heather, but by the looks of the calendar, it is the last time I will have to do so this month.  The reason for this today is that Heather is in Sarasota for her 20 year high school reunion.  I know, I can’t believe it, but it is true.  Heather has been out of high school for 20 years.  Anyway, she didn’t want to wear her dress while driving over there, so she requested two outfits, and I accommodated.

Day 28, Part 1 – Blue Jeans, with Black, Yellow and White Top and Black Sandals

Day 28 Outfit 1

 This is the last pair of jeans in Heather’s closet so I am glad that I saved them for today.  She needed something comfortable for the drive to Sarasota.  These are pretty normal jeans, nothing special, unusual or extraordinary about them.  The top is a little odd I think and has sort of an optical illusion effect to it.  Heather doesn’t wear it very often, as has been the case with most of the clothes she has put on this month, but I am fine with this shirt finding its way to some other closet after today.  I think it bunches a little in the wrong places and the collar line is a little strange.

Day 28 Shoes 1I still have to say that Heather’s toes are just the cutest little things I have ever seen.  They are working it perfectly in the black sandals that we have used on more than one occasion.  It is kind of cool how the circles on the shoes match the circles on the blouse.  It does lend some symmetry to the outfit as a whole.

Now for the 2nd outfit.  First, I really wish I was with Heather for the reunion tonight because quite frankly, she is going to be the hottest girl there and I want to be there, but we have a sick little boy at home and so I am here watching him.  Fudge, our 6 year old Beagle, has some sort of bone marrow anemia that the vets are having trouble diagnosing.  So, I wish I was with Heather, but I couldn’t leave Fudge, so Heather gets to party with her friends without me.  Boo!!

Day 28, Part 2- White Dress with Dark Green and Light Green Polka Dots and Black Peep Toed Sandal Heels

Day 28 Outfit 2

 I was walking through Dillards one day when I saw this dress and immediately I thought it would look great on my wife.  It was more than 100 dollars at the time though, so I didn’t even think about buying it.  Then, one day when Heather and I were at Dillards together we saw a 50% off sign on this dress.  I made her try one on, and we both fell in love with it.  It is the perfect length, great support and a wonderful flow to it.  I LOVE IT! She is going to be so hot at her reunion.

Day 28 Shoes 2These shoes are also from Dillards, but from a couple of years ago.  They are Day 28 Shoes 2 2the Jessica Simpson’s Heather has already worn on one occasion this month.  I am not yet 100% convinced these are the best shoes or even the right colored shoes for this dress, but they definitely work and Heather looks hot in them.

Have a great time at the reunion babe.  I wish I could be there for ya.

Heather:

I will make this short so I can go partay! The first outfit is ok, I’m not really fond of these jeans and the shirt is constructed a bit weird. It does bunch is the wrong places and now looking at this picture, I look pregnant. it’s not very flattering.

About my reunion dress, I LOVE IT! We went to Dillard’s one day just to look for dresses for our upcoming reunions and they were having a great sale. Steve picked this one out, but didn’t tell me until later that he had eyed it a few weeks before then. It fit perfectly. I’m amazed that he can look at a dress that may not look so spectacular on a hanger and know that it will fit me so well. I love my husband! And I am extremely sad that he’s not going to be with me tonight.

 

Day 27: It Is Not Too Fancy Babe!

Steve:  We are certainly coming down to the wire now, and while there are still plenty of clothes left in Heather’s closet, it is becoming a little more difficult to come up with proper attire for the proper venue.  Take today for example.  We decided to go see a movie and later we have to pick up my Dad from the airport.  Neither of these activities require anything fancy, yet I still want Heather to wear clothes that bring out the best in her.  I could settle for a pair of khakis and a plain colored t-shirt, but that wouldn’t be fair to her.  Therefore…

Day 27:  White Dress with Pink Straps and Pink Flowers with Pink Flip Flops

Day 27 Outfit

 So, I know this is the dress that Heather wore to church on Easter Sunday and the first thing she said to me when she saw that I had picked it out was, “This is too fancy.”  I wasn’t convinced, so she put it on and I must say that I think it works great for a day at the movies and a run to the airport.  To me this is a basic sundress with a pink ribbon belt.  There is a lacy mesh running underneath the skirt for added decor.  I have never been a fan of that mesh stuff, but it seems like more than a few dresses have it and it isn’t a deal breaker.

Day 27 ShoesCan’t really say much about basic pink flip flops so I really won’t try.  I will say that it is the flip flops that make this dress wearable everyday.  They bring it from Easter Sunday churchy to dinner and a movie.  Heather doesn’t wear these out very often and there is a pretty good reason, but I will leave that story for her to tell.

I can see having certain outfits for certain things, like a suit or a ball gown, but a simple dress is a beautiful thing and can be worn at almost any occasion.  Don’t leave it in the closet, let it out.  It will work.

Heather:

I did believe today’s dress was definitely too fancy for what we had planned, but surprisingly it worked. And I’ve received two compliments on it since we’ve been out. Of course, that made Steve feel good too! 🙂  I did learn another lesson today by wearing a “fancy” dress on an ordinary day. I probably dress down more (meaning my usual t-shirts, shorts, jeans, etc) because I put too many things in the “too fancy” category when it’s actually appropriate to dress up a little more than usual. I won’t say what I use the shoes for, because when I think about it, I probably shouldn’t be wearing them! Toodles!